So You Say You Want A Career....

Okay, so it's been another hiatus that I've been on.
But I have a topic that I feel most, if not all, of us can relate to.

I'm a college graduate. I recently graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in telecommunications and journalism this past May. Good grades, actively involved within my major and in extra curriculars, and degree in hand... one thing was missing.

A JOB!

Now... I'm not sure about your major, but my major is a DIFFICULT field to BEGIN your career, let alone be in. I took endless amounts of journalism and news related courses in school, but nothing prepared me for how hard this job search was going to be.

And man is it hard!

Ever since I graduated in May 2013, I applied to any and every news station possible. I applied in state, out of state, heck, I might've applied out of the country with all of those resumes I sent out!

And as much as I applied, I didn't receive ANYTHING. Not a phone call. Not an email. Not even an interview.

Until one day...

Fast forward now to April 2014, I am blessed to say I have a job in my career field. I work as a producer and reporter for a news station.

Now, this blog post was not written to "brag" about my career and having a job. It's about what kept me from losing my mind during this job search. I know it can get crazy, and the hunt for your first career gig will seriously drive you up the wall! I know I, along with many others, am a walking testimony to this. So here are some survival tips for you....

1. Brace Yourself
One thing I can honestly say that college didn't prepare me for, as stated earlier, was finding a job. Be prepared to get frustrated, angry, disappointed, unmotivated, and a plethora of other emotions. It's a trying time. Unless you were studying all those years to become a nurse, teacher, doctor, lawyer, then finding a job will be somewhat of a breeze for you... considering there is ALWAYS a demand for all of those things.

However... 
Not when you're studying to become a journalist (which is mainly what this article was dedicated to, from the journalist prospective).

Actually, studies show that journalism is one of the most "worthless degrees to have". I beg to differ about this, but that is a story for a different day. I think the author of that study only said that because it's such a circus trying to find a job in the market, and that it is.

Brace yourself for countless nights of perfecting your resume, filling and sending out applications, emailing news directors from every direction, and so on.... because it's going to happen.

2. Send Your Resumes EVERYWHERE, Really, EVERYWHERE!
I can't emphasize this enough. The importance of sending your resumes everywhere.
If you're as serious as you say you are about landing a job, this should not even be worth explaining.

Sure, living in some small town in Oregon may not seem appealing to you, but it's a start. You remember the saying, "Beggars can't be choosers"?

Well that's exactly what you are in this job search, a beggar. Take what you can get, when you get it. If you originally wanted to work as a news anchor in Los Angeles, California (yes, the dream, I know)... but the only station you get a call from is that small town in Oregon....

Excuse my assertiveness when I say this, YOU BETTER RUN WITH IT!
Understand you will ALWAYS have to start small in order to make it to what you consider "big". No one starts from the top straight out of college. You go from the bottom of the stairs, and work your way up.

And lastly... 

3. Keep Faith
I worked THREE JOBS during the summer after my college graduation. I worked in retail, was a substitute teacher, AND a cheerleading/gymnastics instructor/coach. I'd be lying if I told you I was not tired every single day of my life.

However, I kept faith.

I knew I wasn't going to be wearing three hats as a part-time sales associate, substitute, and coach forever. I knew I was going to land my big break, it was just a matter of WHEN it was going to come.

I experienced a period of depression, disappointment, and lack of self confidence when I noticed a handful of my friends were landing jobs at news stations. I have friends working everywhere, literally. And that's going to happen to you... You will get discouraged. ESPECIALLY when it seems like everyone is landing a job, but you.

GOD. 
Pouring out my frustration to God helped me in so many ways. Deep in your heart, God knows how much you want to begin your career. Trust in Him, pray to Him, and leave it to Him. God has our lives already planned out. He knows you are getting a job, before YOU knew you were getting a job. I credit God so much for the journey I have began in my career now.

So I hope this helps you, think of this post as a "mini survival kit" to get you through this hectic, trying, but significant period of your life as an adult in the real world.




What are you waiting for?
Don't you have some resumes to send out????? ;)

New Direction (And Then Some...)

So it's been a while since I've last blogged. I went on a temporary hiatus, but for good reasons. I'll try my best to start blogging more.

The direction of this blog has changed..
At first I wanted to blog about all things entertainment... after all, that's what I love.
Then... I thought about blogging about fashion AND entertainment.
Wasn't happy with that.

So for a while, I just sat and contemplated about what I really wanted to blog about... and honestly, I came up with this conclusion: WHATEVER. I. WANT!

And I'm starting tonight. With something short, sweet, and to the point.

I came across a photo today...  

of Kimora Lee and her new husband.
EOnline reported that she secretly got married (for the third time, no disrespect, but sheesh!) to businessman, Tim Leissner. 

And normally, I'm all for marriages and people being happy! But I instantly became somewhat a perfect mix of bitter and curious.

How in the world are people out here getting married 3 or more times, but yet...

I'm struggling to even come across a man who will buy me McDonald's WITHOUT complaining about it!

Now mind you, I'm in my early twenties, so marriage is not necessarily on my radar just yet, nor am I "on the prowl" hunting for a man... But really.

I'm from little ol' Indiana... the Hoosier state... where I'm almost convinced more than majority of the men here want to be rappers, party promoters, or would rather spend time bragging about the money they don't have on social media.

... Where men write extremely long Facebook statuses saying, "I want a girl who is college educated, independent, beautiful, long hair, has her own job/car/home, no kids, etc."
... Where the same men writing that status are the same men who have 10 or more kids (by at least 5 different women), no job/car/home, relying on others for money or favors, etc.

How. Annoying.

Woosah.

Had a moment there.

Now this post wasn't to bash men, because I'm sure there are decent men out there in Indiana... but I wish you would come out of hiding! There are a handful of ladies wanting to at least meet you!

Bringing Up Old News: Amber Rose and Kanye West

Hello Blabbies!

Amber Rose

We're pulling the stitches out of an old wound... 

That wound is the former relationship of Amber Rose and Kanye West. 

Now we all remember the couple when they first were an item. Walking around in their leather jeggings and Jordan's, holding hands and the infamous tongue kissing picture.

But... What has life been like for life after AmbYe? (Yes, I just made that up). 

After rolling around YouTube during breaktime, I came across an interview that Amber Rose did with famous blogger (one of my entertainment news faves) Necole Bitchie. This was uploaded in January 2012, and it kind of gave me a new perception of Amber. Not that I ever disliked her, but it made me like her a lot more than I did. 

Necole Bitchie & Amber Rose

Rose (who is now dating rapper, Wiz Khalifa - love them together by the way) brought up some interesting points that I felt should be shared. Rose claims that Kim Kardashian (his new girlfriend and baby's mother) is the reason their relationship ended. Though Rose shows no hard feelings (because she has clearly moved on), she mentioned something that I feel women, celebrities or not, need to hear. 

Kanye West and Amber Rose

Don't blame the other woman, when the man does you wrong.

PREACH IT AMBER!!! PREACH ON!!!

What satisfaction are you getting by blaming the other woman when your man was equally responsible for doing you wrong and cheating? There is none.

No explanation needed for that.

And Rose brought up another thing, forgiveness...

I forgave him. I moved on. I'm past all that.

You can spend your life being miserable and blaming everyone for a relationship that went sour, or you can pick yourself up, forgive the other party and keep it moving. Being the "bigger person" is something we all need to learn how to do. Not only in relationships, but in life... period.

And my last point, letting a man define you...

Kanye didn't make me, my mother & father made me. Kanye had other girlfriends before me, no one gave them the attention that I got because of ME, it's ME.

SAY THAT! A man should never be the reason you are relevant, or the reason you "exist" to others. Amber Rose was Amber Rose BEFORE she met Kanye. Though he may have given her more of a shove into the CENTER of the public eye, she was doing her thing before (I seen her in a few music videos before Kanye was even in the picture, officially).

I thought this interview basically gave Amber the chance to open up about the "behind the scenes" of the infamous Kanye and Amber relationship that we heard LITTLE of. We don't know what goes on when the cameras are off, or when the stage lights dim. Like Necole Bitchie said, what we see is the glamorous side of it all. All we see is front row at the fashion show, and hopping on and off private jets.

I hope my lady blabbies took something away from this post when it comes to relationships.
1) Putting the other woman on blast, hating her, blaming her when your man is EQUALLY responsible... does nothing.
2) Learn to let go of hard feelings, and forgive. I don't know what some of you have been through, but putting hate in your heart will eventually consume you, and eat you alive. Nothing wrong with forgiving... People let us down in life everyday, that is just the way it is.
3) Don't let anyone, a man in this case, define who you are. You were somebody before you met them, you'll be somebody after them. Period.

Thanks Amber!